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活在當下也能擁有未來的目標
Translation: @benkongenglish
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那位同學質疑
「難道我們就只要活在當下
而無需計畫未來或追尋目標嗎?」
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我的答案是肯定的!
不過當然可以計畫下週的旅行 明年的甄選
但計劃依舊都是「活在當下」的其中一部分
我們在這個當下進行規劃
也只能夠規劃著屬於這個當下的未來
假設一切如我們所想 計畫中的未來就可能發生
如果外界或自己的心緒變動了
那個未來 那個計畫就不一樣了
以下容我舉兩個例子
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在台北市遙望高聳的101以為目標
其指引我們當下每一個腳步行進的方向
碰壁了 就左轉或右轉 很難筆直地到達101
最後我們可能會到達101
也可能在途中被一間溫馨的咖啡店吸引
而決定留連其中 品一杯咖啡 讀一本書
之後當我們回憶起那段旅程
在每個當下真實發生的 才是旅行的本質
至於行前規劃 只是出發前的一個活動與樂趣
他們各自在各自的當下飛舞
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再說一個例子
我常常健身重訓
以前的我傻傻地亂練 很輕鬆很有趣
後來竟然真的練出一點名堂
雀躍之下 替自己設下一個高遠的目標
於是我積極地練 同時間運動變成負擔和壓力
甚至肌肉受傷 被迫休養停練
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現在的我期許自己有效率地完成每一組動作
有時間運動很好
若運動時間被其他事情佔據 我就享受那件事情
回頭看自己的經歷 其中有這麼多的享受
也累積成果 成了此刻的自己
別讓未來吞噬當下
當下喜悅的心情是我們最好的導師
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The student was sceptical “Shouldn’t we plan for the future and go after our goals other than living in the moment?”
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My answer is affirmative.
No doubt you can make plans for the trip next week or the selection next year, but these are all just part of “live in the moment”.
We can only plan for the future of this moment when we make plans at this moment.
The planned future may come true if everything goes accordingly.
It may not if our heart or other external factors change.
I would like to illustrate it with two examples:
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Looking at 101 in Taipei and setting it as the target, it guided every step of us towards its direction.
Turn left or right when there’s a dead end.
It’s impossible to reach 101 simply by walking straight
We may be able to reach 101, and also, we may be attracted to a cozy cafe and decide to stay for a coffee and read a book.
When we look back at the trip, the essence of travelling lies in the things happened.
The planning of the trip is only an activity and fun.
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Another example is from me.
I work out a lot.
I used to simply working out. It’s easy and enjoyable.
Fame came.
Ecstatic, I set a higher goal for myself.
I train even harder. Time and sports become a burden and source of stress.
My muscles were strained, forcing me to stop training for a few months.
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Now I expect myself to finish every set efficiently.
It’s good to have time to work out.
If the time for sports is occupied by other stuff, I will enjoy doing that stuff.
Looking back at my experience, I found so many enjoyments.
It became the fruits of my experience, which made me who I am today.
Do not let future overshadow this moment.
The contentment of the moment is our best mentor.
同時也有1部Youtube影片,追蹤數超過7萬的網紅小學雞結他網,也在其Youtube影片中提到,不知各位網上的同學,有否留意到我最近在結他上變得活躍了點? 其實今年年頭開始,已努力為自己的學生訓練夾歌,每班也差不多練好一首歌,只是還未是時候放上來跟大家分享。 我常常跟學生說,有機會一起學結他,一起夾歌,每一堂都要珍惜。 你不會知道下星期,會否有同學跟你說,因為不同原因而不能再學結他了。 那首...
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On the shortness of life
最近重讀Seneca的On the shortness of life,一般我不會在書上做筆記,但翻開那本薄薄的書的時候,我發現我在上面寫了一個日期和地點,2016年9月2日,台中。三年多前這本書陪我走到了台灣,那是踏入社會前的最後一段旅程。
那時候我讀這本書其實並沒有什麼特別的原因,純粹想把所有Penguin Great Ideas系列的書都讀一遍,現在重讀,卻意識到這本書對生命有多重要,如果之前我讀得懂,或許這三年多來我會把工作放輕一點,把自己看重一些。
看著親人一個一個離去,他們刻苦一生,女的成就了丈夫(及孩子),男的成就了孩子,然而他們自己呢?他們的同輩或許也一個一個的走了,所以他們的朋友圈越來愈小,告別式上大多都是親人,幾乎所有人都坐在大廳的左邊,也就是主人家的親人哪一邊,其他舊同事、朋友極少,可想而知真正會惦記他們的人也就更少了。
當然我也去過一個很多人的告別式,那是我爸爸的。爸爸走的時候只有五十歲,那天除了親人以外許多舊同學、舊同事、當時的同事、老闆們,都有來,他們的樣子有點哀傷,說著「怎麼走得這麼突然啦」或類似的話。當然來的人多也不代表他會被更多的人惦記,我幾乎可以悲觀的肯定,會惦記他的人,大概不會多於十個。
爸爸是突然猝死的,在年初三的凌晨,前一天他還說著我們要趁新年假拍一張全家福,前一天他才剛學會用手機的輸入法打中文,還傳了一則「我愛你」給媽媽,那是他第一則傳給媽媽的短信,也是最後一則。他出門前我正在溫習,他拍拍我的肩,跟我說「加油喔,明天煮飯給你吃」,那天我真的有加油,但卻再也沒有吃到他煮的飯。
自那天起,我開始覺得生命是虛無的脆弱的,就像一個肥皂泡一樣,這一面它在空中飄著,下一秒或許就不見了。
“You live as if you were destined to live forever, no thought of your frailty ever enters your head, of how much time has already gone by you take no heed. You squander time as if you drew from a full and abundant supply, though all the while that day which you bestow on some person or thing is perhaps your last.”
― Seneca, On the Shortness of Life
科學一點來講,生命就等於一個人所存在的時間的總和吧,然而我們到底還有多少時間呢?誰也說不準。時間總是在不知不覺間溜走的,一旦你假設了你明天或將來還有時間,時間就走得更快、更冤枉了。活在當下四個字,有些人覺得很玄,有些人則覺得很簡單,但一個人所存在的時間正正就是由許多個當下所組成的,因為過去已經過去了,而將來也不是我們所能預見或掌控的。
一邊讀著Seneca那些依然在追名逐利而浪費生命的人的吶喊,腦中一遍想起Dead Poets Society(《春風化雨/死亡詩社》中Keating帶學生走到許多年的的校友的老照片前,要他們聽清楚照片中的學長的吶喊:Carpe, Carpe diem。
“I went to the woods because I wanted to live deliberately. I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life. To put to rout all that was not life; and not, when I had come to die, discover that I had not lived.”
– Henry David Thoreau
Seneca說,如果人們足夠珍惜生命的話,一生的時間其實很夠用,只是那些貪心的人才會覺得生命太短。或許我還是有點貪心,因為爸爸的生命還是太短了,因為他在我學會珍惜前已經走了。無論如何,好好地、狠狠地活著吧,真的。
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【業力的黑洞】THE BLACK HOLE OF KARMA
(一)
「我不是叫你帶筆記本嗎?」
我看著男客人擺在桌上的那僅僅一張A4紙。
男客人不好意思地說:「我忘了。這是跟櫃台取的。」
「我千里迢迢來到這裡,因為你說你要改命。你就拿這樣一張借來的紙,來改命?一個半小時的看八字,夠你寫嗎?還是你不夠寫時,又要浪費我的時間去借紙?你的認真在哪裡?」
我雙眼直視著男客人的眼睛。
他連忙站起來,去借了多幾張A4紙。
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(二)
「你怎麼帶那麼小的本子?夠寫嗎?」
我不可思議的看著,那如信用卡一般大的記事本。
男客人答:「可以啦!我只寫重點!」
「你這個是懶。我的每一句話都是重點。你的八字在我手上,你是怎樣的人,你不要以為我不知道。你不要跟我瞎掰,更不要有寫沒寫的,然後事後又發私訊重覆性的問回我一樣的問題,因為你沒有用心思寫下來。樓上有書店,要嘛你現在去買,我給你十五分鐘,要嘛我們今天就不看你的八字。你自己選。」
男客人十分鐘內,買了A4本子。
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(三)
我為即將結婚的男客人看新家風水。
他來過我的風水講座數次,閱讀我臉書也有兩年多時間,應該很熟悉我的性格。事前,我提醒過他兩次要帶筆記本,兩次兩次他都跟我說謝謝提醒。
站在客廳看風水時,他抽出那張A4的屋子平面圖,壓在手掌心寫。
「我不是已經叫你帶筆記本嗎?」
他笑笑不語,沒有解釋,沒有道歉。
新家風水那麼重要,關係到你和你家人未來至少五年的興旺,你就在這一張軟綿綿的紙上寫兩個小時的筆記嗎?
以我對客人的要求,我本會叫他到外頭買筆記本,我們才繼續看風水。
但那天,現任屋主還住在那個單位,是特別約好時間讓我們進去看風水,對方也在等著我們完事後就要出門。
想想他過去兩年來常在我臉書貼文按讚,就給他一點面子,讓他在女朋友面前好下台,也算是報答他的支持。
於是,我看在眼裡,記在心裡。依我的經驗,沒把筆記寫好的,必會再來問我。
幾天後,他來訊詢問。當中有幾個問題,我當天已解說過。
我回他:「我雖不介意回答已經回答過的問題,但如果你那一天有帶筆記本,你必會抄下來。」
也就不用再問。
我也寫道:「我對你有點失望。」
他回我:「我明白也注意到你的失望。以後會更留意自己的念頭和舉止。」
「你應該跟我道歉。你忽視我的善意提醒本就不對。」
也猶如騙了我。如果你當初不想帶,直說,不要以假謝謝敷衍。
男客人過後道歉,也大方的同意我把這件事情寫出來,警惕大家。
如果你的未來註定會坎坷,無論是婚姻、事業、家庭或財富,你要比任何人都更注意你的一舉一動。
因為你細小的念頭,細微的決定,會一步一步引你掉入你命中註定的歹運。
你會漏掉寫下我千交代萬交代的事情。
你會寫錯、聽錯、記錯、做錯。
你身邊的人會影響你,告訴你不要聽我或任何能幫你改命的話,你如何如何讓她他不開心不舒服。
你會有錢也不要出錢,只是一直想博取我的同情,得到免費的幫助,然後稱說自己沒有錢。
你會任性,你會執著,你會覺得風水命理沒那麼厲害,你自己說了算,雖然你根本不怎麼樣。
因為你已變成一個弦线上的小木偶,被你那無情的業力操控著。
我的嚴厲,是要及時拉你一把,不要「青青菜菜」的過活,不要拖累你的家人和你一起遭業報。
不是每個人跌倒後,都能夠爬得起來。
誰不想做好人,讓每個人都喜歡自己?但自古,慈母多敗兒。
在現今社會裡,男人女人的自信,都是來自於事業,但每個人的幸福,都是源自於家庭。
所以千萬千萬不要自私。
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(1)
“Didn't I tell you to bring a notebook?"
I looked at the lonely piece of A4 paper the male client placed on the table.
Slightly embarrassed, the male client said, "I forgot. This was obtained from the counter."
"I come all the way here because you tell me you want to change your destiny. You bring this kind of paper to change your life? My consultation is 1.5 hour and you think it's enough for you to write? Or when you run out of space, are you going to waste my time to go and borrow paper? Where is your seriousness?"
I looked at the male client straight in the eyes.
He hurriedly stood up and borrowed a few more pieces of A4 paper.
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(2)
"Why did you bring such a small notebook? How is it enough for you to write?"
I looked at the credit-card-sized notebook incredulously.
The male client replied, "Can! I only write the important points!"
"This is your sloth. Everything I said is important. Your Bazi is in my hands. Don't think that I do not know what kind of person you are. Don't talk nonsense to me. Don't write selectively and then later send me PMs asking me the same questions that I have answered in this consultation, just because you didn't put in effort to jot it down. There is a bookshop upstairs. Either you go and buy now. I will give you 15 minutes. Or we will cancel today's consultation. You decide."
The male client returned with a brand new A4 notebook in ten minutes.
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(3)
I was doing a Feng Shui audit for a male client who was getting married.
He came to my Feng Shui workshops a few times and have read my Facebook for over 2 years. Prior to the audit, I reminded him twice to bring a notebook and twice, he thanked me for my reminders.
While standing in the living room doing the Feng Shui audit, he drew out a A4-sized floorplan and wrote on it, with his palm as the backing.
"Didn't I already tell you to bring a notebook?"
He smiled back at me. No explanation. No apology.
The Feng Shui of a new home is so important because it determines the future of your family luck for at least the next 5 years. And you are going to write on this floppy piece of paper for the next 2 hours?
Given my expectations of clients, I would have told him to go and buy a notebook before I continued my audit.
But that day, the current owner was still living in the unit. It was by appointment that we were let in to get the Feng Shui audit done. The family was also waiting for us to finish things up, as they were going out.
I thought of the many times that he had Liked my FB posts these two years. So I decided to give him some face, and not make things difficult for him in front of his girlfriend. Also a very tiny way of me thanking him for his support all these while.
Hence, I put this incident in my heart. From my experience, I know that anyone who did not write the notes well will definitely come back to ask me again.
A few days later, he sent me messages, some of which were raising the same questions that I had explained on the day of the audit.
I told him, "While I do not mind answering the same questions again, if you had brought a notebook that day, you would have written it down."
You and I would not need to repeat ourselves again.
I also wrote, "I am slightly disappointed in you."
His reply, "Well noted on your disappointment. Will pay attention to own thoughts/actions for better changes."
"You should apologise to me. It is wrong of you to ignore my reminders to bring a notebook."
This is akin to lying to me. If you do not wish to bring, say it outright. Don't brush me off with perfunctory thanks.
He did apologised later and graciously gave me the permission to write about this, to remind my readers.
If your future is destined to be difficult, be it in your marriage, career, family or wealth, you must be extra observant of your every action and deed.
Because every little thought of yours, every seemingly minor decision you made, will lead you step-by-step to fall into the manhole of your pre-destined bad fortune.
You will miss out on what I repeatedly tell you to do.
You will write wrongly, hear wrongly, remember wrongly and do wrongly.
The people around you will influence you. They will tell you not to listen to me, or any well-meaning advice to transform your destiny. They will say that you doing so is making them unhappy and uncomfortable.
You will be unwillingly to fork out money even when you can afford it. You want to live off the compassion of mine and get free help, on the empty claim that you have no money.
You will be wilful. You will be stubborn. You will think that there is no big deal about Chinese Metaphysics and that what you say matters the most in your life. Despite not having any ability or past achievement to support that fat bold claim.
Because you have already become that little string puppet, being dangled around mercilessly by your negative karma.
My sternness is to pull you away from that manhole of mishaps. Do not live your life in a blur. Do not drag your family down with you to suffer at the hands of karma.
Not everyone can stand up right again, after a really bad fall.
Who doesn't wish to be that well-liked person? But since ancient times, an overly loving mother often leads to a useless son.
In modern society, the self confidence of every man and woman tend to come from his/her career. But happiness and bliss will always come from your family.
So never ever choose to be selfish.
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不知各位網上的同學,有否留意到我最近在結他上變得活躍了點?
其實今年年頭開始,已努力為自己的學生訓練夾歌,每班也差不多練好一首歌,只是還未是時候放上來跟大家分享。
我常常跟學生說,有機會一起學結他,一起夾歌,每一堂都要珍惜。
你不會知道下星期,會否有同學跟你說,因為不同原因而不能再學結他了。
那首練習到一半的歌,怎麼辦了?
所以,在還能一起夾歌時,應該拿出100%去準備,去練習。
五首at17的歌:《the best is yet to come》、《never been kissed》、《始終一天》、《窮得只有愛》、《你有自己一套》,我都已經拍了結他cover,也教了不同班的學生。
接著,我會跟朋友錄一次這5首歌,之後有機會做一個facebook live跟大家唱這5首歌,重新開始我夾歌的路。
隨著年紀增長,沒把握的事不敢說出口,期待或目標都放在心中默默地做。
但也隨著年紀增長,能做想做的事,機會也少了,不如大聲說出來,肯定要把事情做好。
就像我想做每一件事,說出來,盡力做出來。
【由零開始結他班】
時間:星期六,7pm-8pm
內容:全面認識結他,如彈唱/獨奏/編譜/樂理,希望持續學習的同學
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人數:4人班 (只剩3位)
學費:$800/4堂
《結他初中班》
時間:星期二,8pm-9pm
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要求:會彈C大調D大調順階和弦,會練習合奏流行曲,自彈自唱及簡單獨奏
人數:4人班(只剩1位)
學費:$800/4堂
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地點:觀塘海濱道139-141號海濱中心
設備:堂上有結他借用,有筆記供課後練習
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教學內容:
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2. 基本拍子感訓練
3. 讀譜視奏
4. 音階scale練習及應用
5. 和弦chord練習及應用
6. 掃chord練習及流行曲應用
7. 指法練習及流行曲應用
8. 大小調推算樂理
9. 基本Jamming練習
10. 和弦推算樂理
11. 獨奏曲練習
12. 常用技巧練習:hammer on、pull off、bending、slide等等
13. 分析獨奏編曲
學生守則
1. 請鼓勵自己克服困難
2. 請勿否定自己
3. 準時交學費
4. 準時上堂
5. 請假需一星期通知,不設補堂(除非特別要求)
6. 缺席前必須通知,屢犯者會取消上課預約
7. 第1堂付費後,逄第4堂交學費,如第4堂沒交,一星期內入數,否則取消學位
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